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Hello Alexander,

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A Different Way to Tell What PTSD is Like

            The strength of your emotions during the event determine how long and how vivid you will remember things. Sharp pain, as a physical representation of negative emotions is stronger than intense pleasure, a representation of positive emotions. What I write below is irrelevant about its content, but is very relevant about the longevity and the vividness of details preserved by memory over time. Again, and again, I am not comparing this situation to PTSD. Instead, I use this example to illustrate that if positive emotions could capture the degree of vividness and preserve it over time, negative emotions are by their nature are more potent than pleasant ones. If I remember my pleasant experiences this well, a soldier or a rape victim remembers details of his or her nasty events much more lucid and much more longer.

I could, of course, write about different nasty experiences, about things that will make your hair stand, and will keep you awake at night, for many nights. Instead, I chose to share with you only pleasant memories because they will not be disturbing, intrusive, and unmanageable.

After reading my notes, I want you to understand with your brain, gut, and soul, that PTSD is polar opposite of this and many times stronger. The point is for you to, at least, somehow, experience what PTSD is like without putting you through the real, the nasty, the worst of what a man is capable of doing.

Our memories shape our lives, our actions, and our reactions to the conditions that resemble what we experienced some time in the past. From the moment of inception, we remember, consciously or subconsciously, everything we hear, smell, taste, touch, feel, and think about; we remember ideas and emotions, we remember it all, from inception to death. The reason some memories stay fresh for a month, a year, or for life, is because they were written using stronger and stronger emotions. In a way, emotions assign the tools with which the memories are recorded.

 

Special Memories Come with Keys, Like Charms on a Necklace

In my early twenties, I fell in love. I was young and inexperienced in handling emotions. Although many years went by filling my memory banks with other experiences, I can still recall the sensations, the emotions, and the feelings I had back then. That relationship did not work out. And even though I have not seen her for decades, I still remember. The stronger the feelings, the longer the memory will last.

I used to enjoy playing music, including five years of music school with classes at least three times a week, and tons of practice. After my graduation, I put the instrument in the closet, and when found it a year later, I could not play a single tune, even with the music sheets. So how is it that maybe 50 aggregate hours of sex during several months of relationship linger in my memory for several decades, while what I learned in over 1,500 hours of lessons over five years, vanished from the memory in less than a year?

Why is it that every time I see a redhead, I remember the redheaded girl, my childhood friend? Actually, playing with her was more trouble than fun. To this day, I have no redheaded friends.

Fear is another key—more powerful emotion than love, in terms of memorability. Although I’ve had my share of gruesome frightening memories, I would rather talk about the brain and memory by using pleasant experiences.

Her skin was soft and velvety. Her scent, lightly sweet, with a hint of vanilla, reminded me of the scent of the hair of a toddler. Her eyes were dark, big, and deep as an ocean. We were kissing, cuddling and kissing some more. Our hands caressed each other’s skin, and it felt as though we didn’t have enough hands and enough fingers to touch and caress the entire body, all at the same time. Her lips kissed every spot on my body. Hot, moist and insatiable, they wanted more, and more, and more. At times, when I had my eyes closed, it felt as though I was in her lips, between them, as though I was within them, inside and out. We had to take short breaks from giving each other pleasure. When she kissed my hand, or arm, or leg, or stomach, that part would experience such intensity of sensation, it felt as though my heart moved in there. Sometimes it felt as though my heart was in my stomach or in my throat, or in my calf. She would start kissing and caressing that part, and after some time, that part of my body would get hot. I would start feeling my heartbeat in there. Then it would start throbbing with pleasurable sensations. The pleasure would increase to the point of becoming mixed with discomfort, to dull pain, to intense pain mixed with intense pleasure. When we stopped, it was only to catch some breath. Between the periods of cuddling, caressing and kissing, we would interlock our genitals for the dance of life, with the rhythm of the blinking star. Going inside her was not a treat, it was an ever-evolving journey, sometimes boisterous, rough, relentless, merciless, like the heavy storm waves pounding the rocky cliff; every time exploding, roaring with the raucous unbridled spirit. Sometimes it was a calm voyage with slow, warm, long waves running up the fine sand of a tropical beach, breaking up in tiny white bubbles, absorbed by the thirsty sand without a whisper. Oozing from the inside out, spouting from the outside in was the nectar of love, saturating, insisting, permeating, invading, remarkable, unstoppable. We relished in its tangy presence and let our bodies drink up the elixir of life.

Sex, love making, it was not. It was beyond sexual gratification, beyond physical pleasures, beyond intimate closeness, beyond emotional fulfillment. They were voyages, not intercourse, not oral sex, not kissing. They were voyages; voyages into a different realm of existence, out of our bodies and into the unity, the boundless unity with everything. Not daily, not with any schedule, not with any kind of arrangements, these expeditions would start with a barely perceptible look in each other’s eyes, an unspoken understanding that it was time for another journey, a trip into the abyss of pleasure and mystery. Each trip had a life of its own. It would start seemingly on its own, and last for four, six, twelve hours, and one time, close to three full nights and three full days. It was only upon our arrival, that we could somehow get a grip on reality and time. During these trips, however, the notion of time seemed to disappear, and neither of us was even vaguely aware of the existence of time or the word “time” itself.

My body would feel as though it was spreading into hers, as though I was dissolving in her, and she was dissolving into me. Our spirits and our bodies would become one, like water blends with milk. I knew every sensation she had, and she knew every sensation I had. We knew each other’s thoughts and feelings. When we looked into each other’s eyes, we were able to talk to each other without uttering a single word. This way, we talked about clouds, rain, water, jumping in the puddles, how we first rode a tricycle. She would tell me about flowers and dresses, and music and fire, and I would tell her about bridges and energy, and war and the planet. We were not talking per se, but communicating without words, without gestures, without signals. Wide varieties of new knowledge would just appear before us, within our reach, not requiring any effort to understand or share. We even played with each other by trading where we were. With just a momentary look into each other’s eyes, we could swap places; I would go into her world and into her body, and she into mine. Momentarily I would feel as though I was her, feeling the weight of my body pressing on her, the fullness of her breasts, her finger nails, her long and curly hair under my back, I felt my penis in her, the way it was pushing up and up and up, with every stroke rubbing by her heart reaching her throat.

While being her, I saw bright and colorful fields of flowers; I was hopping on a cloud, and bathing nude in a pond, under the waterfall. I felt how the flow of water agreed with the curves of her body, and how her nipples hardened against the flow. While being me, she said that she was uncomfortable with my wider shoulders; that she felt like flexing the stronger arm muscles. She didn’t feel feminine with the larger feet, and my penis was sticking out and was getting in the way; she said it pulled her pubic skin and felt heavy and demanding.

We both enjoyed playing this fun game, and we laughed and laughed. We could start it in a moment, and go back to our own selves just as fast.

Sometimes we would venture out into the world of trees and rivers. We would be holding hands as we approached a big old tree, and then we’d hug it, pressing our chests and chins into the bark. A moment later we would become that tree, see its life, see how it goes to sleep in the winter, and how it wakes up in the spring. We felt the heat from forest fires, the tree’s thirst during droughts. Tapping the wisdom of the tree was unparalleled. To stand in one place, stand there no matter what, experiencing the world day after day, year after year for hundreds of years is an experience wide as the horizon, and as profound as the night sky. Nothing was puzzling; nothing was difficult. Everything had its place, except for time. We only thought about time upon our arrival to our ordinary selves. While we were traveling, the present was in the past, and the past was in the present, and the future was there, too. The present, past and future were one. It was confusing, and amusing, but only afterwards. While in there, it was pure bliss.

I remember that her breath smelled like the breath of a baby after nursing: warm, sweet and contented. My hands remember the feel of her silky hair curls.

Why several decades later, do I still remember that?

And why don’t I remember what I had for lunch yesterday?

 

The brain has its own rules for remembering. It puts most of life experiences on the back burner, while keeping selective few perpetually hot. The more emotionally charged an experience, the longer we will remember it. Emotions accompany all of our experiences. The deeper our emotions during an event, the deeper it gets carved into the memory.

The longevity of the message depends on how that message was recorded. A sand castle will stand until the next tide. “Wash me” on the hood of a dusty car will last until the first rain, or car wash. But deeply engraved in stone, “Bob was here” will last an eternity. Emotions assign value to every signal, every bit of information entering our consciousness. In a way, emotions assign the tools with which the memories are recorded.

Low emotional value, and the message will dissipate like smoke in the air. Sitting in the company kitchen yesterday, eating something homemade, is what happens when the emotionally assigned value to my lunch was low. I remember only that I ate—and ate “something” I brought from home. What I brought from home I can’t remember. Why? Because my lunch was uneventful.

Four days ago, on the weekend, I went with my son to get a burger and a cup of coffee. I like Starbucks regular coffee. A Starbucks was next to the burger place. Since I was inside the burger place, I thought, coffee is coffee is coffee, what’s the difference? After drinking the coffee I bought from that burger place, I had a headache until I went to bed. That’s the difference. I don’t remember anything about the burgers, but four days later, I remember the coffee because it was accompanied by physical discomfort, a headache.

My emotions—being upset and disappointed—were involved. Will I remember this story a year from now? I doubt it for my emotions wrote the message by using a finger on the dust.

However, that young love affair will probably stay with me for the rest of my life. At the time, the emotions were so strong the memories were recorded by chiseling them in stone.

What I wanted to convey with the above story is that we all share the same PROCESS of remembering. Rape victims, abused children, and soldiers, all suffer from PTSD. The Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is based on our memories. If we could find a way to select certain memories and make them less intrusive, less painful, less persistent, then people who survived the worst of what humans are capable of, then we can go on with our lives. Instead, people with PTSD are stuck, they are nailed to their memories.

As they re-tell these stories, they relive, they re-experience the emotions, the sensations, the pain again, and again, and again. Soldiers do not like to talk about their nasty memories. Do you know why? Because it is unspeakably painful to re-live through that pain again.

Read my article “Defang PTSD with Overabundance of Neutrality.” I hope, by trying different things, we can find a way to help those affected with PTSD to live a more normal life.

Thank you for your participation in reading this article. If you find it worthy, please spread the word.

Stay strong and stubborn,

Alexander Nestoiter, author of

Incredible Ah-ha Moments: Ideas you won’t stop talking about

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Posted by Incredible Ah-Ha Moments at 3/15/2012 8:00 AM
Categories: Defang PTSD
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PTSD

PTSD

Question 10

Let’s talk about memory, more specifically about painful and persistent memories. Some memories, like PTSD, simply refuse to go away, and even with passing of time, they manage to haunt people. These memories remain vivid and fresh as though the events took place yesterday.

Do you happen to have a suggestion how to help people with such painful and persistent memory problems?

A.N.

            Yes, unfortunately, some people go through terrible life events and memories of these events remain fresh even with passing of time.  Some events people remember vividly no matter what they do.  Some people may experience the same physical and emotional pains in the present, like they did during the original event that may have taken place decades ago.  Severe emotional, mental, or physical trauma, like the trauma after battle, or the trauma after a violent incident, tend to stay fresh in the memory, no matter how much time has passed. Understandably, people are looking for ways to remember, but remember less vividly, so they can move on with their lives.

            I know that the current psychotherapy takes a long time and is often more bothersome than helpful. People go to shrinks who invite them to relive the memory episodes again and again in the hope that one day they will become immune to them.  First of all, people are reluctant to go to a shrink knowing full well what that session will entail.  Second, people are terrified and deeply bothered by their memories. Why anyone would voluntarily go through that experience again and again without a sliver of hope that their repeated suffering will subside?

            That’s just pure madness and torture. That’s the way I see it. Look, would you go to a doctor who will put your foot in a vise until bones start poking through the skin, in the hopes that one day this procedure will be less painful?  People are already suffering, why add more to that pain?

            Psychiatry makes a person overall less sensitive. I don’t know of any pills that would alter the response to the specific memory. You can turn the entire person numb, even indifferent, in order to suppress selected memories. But this will turn a person into a walking numb zombie, incapable of living full and productive life.

            Although this specific subject is not covered in this book, I am getting close to polishing my recommendations on what to do to make some memories less invasive, less stifling, less traumatic in life. If you someone is interested in this subject, let me know. This way, they will be the first to know when something becomes available.

            I don’t want people to have false hope, but at this point, I can tell you with some level of certainty, that the task is doable.  It takes a little time, perhaps several months.  And you may have guessed, it will require the use of the water pipe, or some similar equipment, as the main tool, and a set of techniques that are, for now, my “secret ingredients.”

            I’m looking for volunteers to take what I’ve created for a test drive. Remember, no pills, no therapy talking, no journals, no schedules.  About $20.00 for supplies and several hours for our first meeting. After that, we meet as needed, but mostly the person will learn to deal with his PTSD on his own, at home, or outside, or in his or her office. In a few months, I hope and pray, he or she will move on and have a full and productive life. And should the ugly surface again, the person will know what to do and will have the equipment to do it with, no mater where he or she is.

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Defang PTSD

Defang PTSD

Defang PTSD with Overabundance of Neutrality

            Recently I posted on Twitter inviting people with PTSD to volunteer for testing of some of my ideas. Even though I got not a single volunteer, people read that particular blog on PTSD in record numbers. I figured the topic must be important, but people were skeptical. Now, I can simply sit and wait until someone gets so desperate he or she will volunteer, looking for any sliver of hope. This may take a month, a year, or a decade, but during this time, most people with PTSD will be suffering from their persistent symptoms.

            I chose to go a different path. I will disclose my ideas publically, thus making them available for anyone to test.

            The “meat and potatoes” of my suggestions will be discussed shortly. For now, I want to discuss those elements that still tug at my consciousness for not addressing them better. Disclosing my ideas would also involve opening myself to either something big and nice or something big and very unpleasant. Why? Because I am putting forward something I have not yet tested. It may prove to be good, or it may prove to be bad. Without enough people testing it, nobody knows for sure.

            At this time, proper testing is simply not feasible without the resources needed to pull it off. If I could foretell the future, things would be different. But since I have no such magic powers, I make decisions based on today’s reality.

            What I offer doesn’t hurt, doesn’t cost much to do, and doesn’t require any one with expertise to help. It is simple and easy to do. My ideas are so basic you learned most of them when you started walking, when your parents taught you to put one foot in front of another.

           In my book and blogs, I suggest building a simple contraption where a 4-foot-long, ¾” galvanized steel water pipe that gets attached on top of two wooded blocks, about 3” above the floor. I would use three per side of 2-hole pipestrap ceiling support (see picture of the clamp.)  (Instructions on how to build the water pipe stand are at end of the blog.)

            This simple and inexpensive balancing pipe is all you need. It will work for many years.

 

Here is what you do:

  • At first, hold onto the wall or the back of a chair, as you stand on the water pipe.
  • Be sure to wear thick cotton socks
  • Raise your arms to your shoulder level, to the sides, and parallel to the floor. At first, you will be able to hold balance for 1-2 seconds at a time.
  • After about a week, gradually learn to stand without any support. Pretend that you are walking on a tightrope, and you need to keep balance.
  • Making steps across the pipe just so you would get on the other side is fun, but unnecessary. It is much harder to stand in one place and hold your balance
  • Then you will step off with one foot on the floor. This is normal.

IMPORTANT: Holding your balance for 3-4 seconds at a time takes a lot of practice. Don’t be discouraged. The seconds on the pipe, while you are holding your balance, are not as important as your WILL to get back on the pipe after you lost your balance.

            When soldiers are in training, they get exhausted from various physical exercises, but maintain that it is even harder mentally. It is the ability to maintain your cool, collected composure, not to respond to fear in the ordinary way. It is giving the training all you’ve got, without hold anything back, reaching deep down to find the strength to carry on.

 

Balancing

            The same is true about balancing on the water pipe. It looks fun, it is fun, yet it is built specifically to be challenging. And if you master the pipe, when something challenges you emotionally or memories of the nasty surface, kick off your shoes and climb on that water pipe. The more emotionally I get upset, the harder my willpower has to fight to put me on the pipe. Emotions are like a wild fire, they can go in all directions, with incredible speed and power.

            Holding your balance on the water pipe puts a chocker hold on your emotional wild fire. On the water pipe, you demand your emotions to submit to your will, to settle down. Emotions will fight back and keep you away from the pipe. Your willpower must be stronger than your negative or worrisome emotions in order to get back on the pipe, if only for a fraction of a second at a time. The more often you get on the pipe, the more calming it is for you and your emotions.

 

Bad Memories

            When it comes to helping you to take the edge off the nasty, there is there is a new approach. I come up with it and I call it “Overabundance of Neutrality.”  You dull your bad memories by sheer volume of neutrally charged moments.

            Those seconds when you stand on the pipe, they put your brain hemispheres in a temporary neutral state. Your physical demand for balance prevents one brain hemisphere to overpower another. Maintaining your physical body in balance MAKES the two halves of the brain work in equilibrium, in balance, with each other.

            If you, for example, spend one hour practicing with the water pipe, at first, you will probably spend only 10 minutes on top of the pipe, holding your balance. With additional practice, these 10 minutes will grow to 20 minutes, for every hour of practice. In a week, that’s 140 minutes your brain hemispheres worked in harmony with each other. Do this at least twice a day, like 30 and 30 minutes, plus during the episodes, if any.  Do this religiously, like clockwork, every day, over six months. No questions, not breaks, no excuses.

 

That which we do in abundance

Will determine the shape of our life

 

You need to drown your bad memories in the Overabundance of Neutrality. With time, your negative memories will lose their preeminent status. You will defang them with Overabundance of Neutrality. Their power will dissipate little by little, every time your feet are on top of that water pipe. Practice on schedule, by the clock, day after day, month after month, and you will see that your episodes will become less frequent, less traumatic, less out-of-control. In time you will overwhelm their power with the power of Overabundance of Neutrality.

            Now, what if you are not home and don’t have your water pipe around? I come up with a way to simulate the experience without the pipe. First find a spot where you can be alone. Imagine or draw a straight line on the floor. If your room is carpeted, draw a chair in a straight line on that carpet and the legs will leave four straight lines.

            With or without shoes, put your HEELS on that line and increase the distance between your feet. Imagine that you have either a fat magic marker or a highlighter. Now stay on your heels and raise your feet. You want to be able to pass that marker on the floor under the soles of your feet all the way until you reach your heels. (If this is difficult to do with the back foot, turn the foot out at 45 degrees, but keep the toes and the foot up, not touching the floor.)

            This posture makes it very difficult to hold your balance, because we take away the righting functions of the feet. Also, you are standing on only two sharp points, your heels. Your heels have to be on a centerline that separates your left and right sides of your body.

            Just like with the water pipe, at first, hold on to something. After a while, learn to maintain your balance for one, two, or three seconds at a time. I know this is challenging, but it does the job. Force your willpower to continue with this training, if only for 10 minutes. Away from home, it will be the most productive, the most calming 10 minutes.

            Try to do it in a secluded place, so you don’t have to deal with the stares and questions from other people. You have enough going on in your head as is.

 

            This is it, my friend. I’ve told you all I know. I’ve dealt with balance for about fifteen years. It is a mighty source for your body to heal itself. It is now time for you to put all this to the test. Please, oh please, don’t expect fast results. You have to overcome difficulties not with your strength, but with your perseverance and attention to the clock and the schedule. Can you find enough willpower in you to do this over several months?

            If you have one, continue with your treatment, and do this practice, without question, without fail, without excuses, for six months. Then, let the world know if this was a bunch of hooey or if this was success for Overabundance in Neutrality.

            I will take whatever response you provide, as long as it’s honest.

 

How to build your own water pipe 

1.     Clean the entire water pipe with rubbing alcohol a few times, as it is dirty when you get it from the store.

2.     Wrap a medium-heavy jute twine over the entire length of the pipe. Leave about 1-2 finger empty space between the loops. When wrapping keep, the string tight. As you reach the end, return the way you came in and lay another layer of loops on tope of the ones you just made. This will create diamond-shaped patterns in the wrapping.

3.     Secure the ends with hockey tape. (It is a cloth-based tape used to wrap the handles of hockey sticks and baseball bats. If you have a choice, get it white color.)

4.     Next step is messy. Make sure you cover your work area. Take traditional wood glue, like the Titebond or Elmer’s glue, and with a cheap paintbrush, brush the glue all over the pipe and the twine. Apply a thin coat or it will drip a lot and will take longer to dry. The glue will prevent the twine from shifting and also will make the twine a bit coarser to touch.

5.     Dry overnight.

6.     Wrap everything with hockey tape.

7.     Try to step on the pipe with your socks. Depending on the hockey tape you got, it may stick a little to the socks. In this case, with a dry paintbrush lightly spread some cornstarch over the pipe. This should reduce stickiness.

8.     If you contraption is used on top of new and thick carpet or rug, the wooden blocks may wobble side to side. So either build then like the inverted letter U (see pictures on my website of the one I have), or install four protruding legs (about ½” high) on the bottom of the blocks. The legs will reach the stable area under the carpet and keep the entire contraption from wobbling. See picture.

 

Now, while you were reading this article, did you catch yourself going through the isles of your hardware store? If you nod your had, I’m glad. 

This is a sign for you. Follow it

Godspeed to you!

Stay strong and stubborn.

Sincerely,

Alexander Nestoiter, author of:

Incredible Ah-ha Moments: Ideas you won’t stop talking about

 

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Defang PTSD

Defang PTSD

Defang PTSD with Overabundance of Neutrality

            Recently I posted on Twitter inviting people with PTSD to volunteer for testing of some of my ideas. Even though I got not a single volunteer, people read that particular blog on PTSD in record numbers. I figured the topic must be important, but people were skeptical. Now, I can simply sit and wait until someone gets so desperate he or she will volunteer, looking for any sliver of hope. This may take a month, a year, or a decade, but during this time, most people with PTSD will be suffering from their persistent symptoms.

            I chose to go a different path. I will disclose my ideas publically, thus making them available for anyone to test.

            The “meat and potatoes” of my suggestions will be discussed shortly. For now, I want to discuss those elements that still tug at my consciousness for not addressing them better. Disclosing my ideas would also involve opening myself to either something big and nice or something big and very unpleasant. Why? Because I am putting forward something I have not yet tested. It may prove to be good, or it may prove to be bad. Without enough people testing it, nobody knows for sure.

            At this time, proper testing is simply not feasible without the resources needed to pull it off. If I could foretell the future, things would be different. But since I have no such magic powers, I make decisions based on today’s reality.

            What I offer doesn’t hurt, doesn’t cost much to do, and doesn’t require any one with expertise to help. It is simple and easy to do. My ideas are so basic you learned most of them when you started walking, when your parents taught you to put one foot in front of another.

           In my book and blogs, I suggest building a simple contraption where a 4-foot-long, ¾” galvanized steel water pipe that gets attached on top of two wooded blocks, about 3” above the floor. I would use three per side of 2-hole pipestrap ceiling support (see picture of the clamp.)  (Instructions on how to build the water pipe stand are at end of the blog.)

            This simple and inexpensive balancing pipe is all you need. It will work for many years.

 

Here is what you do:

  • At first, hold onto the wall or the back of a chair, as you stand on the water pipe.
  • Be sure to wear thick cotton socks
  • Raise your arms to your shoulder level, to the sides, and parallel to the floor. At first, you will be able to hold balance for 1-2 seconds at a time.
  • After about a week, gradually learn to stand without any support. Pretend that you are walking on a tightrope, and you need to keep balance.
  • Making steps across the pipe just so you would get on the other side is fun, but unnecessary. It is much harder to stand in one place and hold your balance
  • Then you will step off with one foot on the floor. This is normal.

IMPORTANT: Holding your balance for 3-4 seconds at a time takes a lot of practice. Don’t be discouraged. The seconds on the pipe, while you are holding your balance, are not as important as your WILL to get back on the pipe after you lost your balance.

            When soldiers are in training, they get exhausted from various physical exercises, but maintain that it is even harder mentally. It is the ability to maintain your cool, collected composure, not to respond to fear in the ordinary way. It is giving the training all you’ve got, without hold anything back, reaching deep down to find the strength to carry on.

 

Balancing

            The same is true about balancing on the water pipe. It looks fun, it is fun, yet it is built specifically to be challenging. And if you master the pipe, when something challenges you emotionally or memories of the nasty surface, kick off your shoes and climb on that water pipe. The more emotionally I get upset, the harder my willpower has to fight to put me on the pipe. Emotions are like a wild fire, they can go in all directions, with incredible speed and power.

            Holding your balance on the water pipe puts a chocker hold on your emotional wild fire. On the water pipe, you demand your emotions to submit to your will, to settle down. Emotions will fight back and keep you away from the pipe. Your willpower must be stronger than your negative or worrisome emotions in order to get back on the pipe, if only for a fraction of a second at a time. The more often you get on the pipe, the more calming it is for you and your emotions.

 

Bad Memories

            When it comes to helping you to take the edge off the nasty, there is there is a new approach. I come up with it and I call it “Overabundance of Neutrality.”  You dull your bad memories by sheer volume of neutrally charged moments.

            Those seconds when you stand on the pipe, they put your brain hemispheres in a temporary neutral state. Your physical demand for balance prevents one brain hemisphere to overpower another. Maintaining your physical body in balance MAKES the two halves of the brain work in equilibrium, in balance, with each other.

            If you, for example, spend one hour practicing with the water pipe, at first, you will probably spend only 10 minutes on top of the pipe, holding your balance. With additional practice, these 10 minutes will grow to 20 minutes, for every hour of practice. In a week, that’s 140 minutes your brain hemispheres worked in harmony with each other. Do this at least twice a day, like 30 and 30 minutes, plus during the episodes, if any.  Do this religiously, like clockwork, every day, over six months. No questions, not breaks, no excuses.

 

That which we do in abundance

Will determine the shape of our life

 

You need to drown your bad memories in the Overabundance of Neutrality. With time, your negative memories will lose their preeminent status. You will defang them with Overabundance of Neutrality. Their power will dissipate little by little, every time your feet are on top of that water pipe. Practice on schedule, by the clock, day after day, month after month, and you will see that your episodes will become less frequent, less traumatic, less out-of-control. In time you will overwhelm their power with the power of Overabundance of Neutrality.

            Now, what if you are not home and don’t have your water pipe around? I come up with a way to simulate the experience without the pipe. First find a spot where you can be alone. Imagine or draw a straight line on the floor. If your room is carpeted, draw a chair in a straight line on that carpet and the legs will leave four straight lines.

            With or without shoes, put your HEELS on that line and increase the distance between your feet. Imagine that you have either a fat magic marker or a highlighter. Now stay on your heels and raise your feet. You want to be able to pass that marker on the floor under the soles of your feet all the way until you reach your heels. (If this is difficult to do with the back foot, turn the foot out at 45 degrees, but keep the toes and the foot up, not touching the floor.)

            This posture makes it very difficult to hold your balance, because we take away the righting functions of the feet. Also, you are standing on only two sharp points, your heels. Your heels have to be on a centerline that separates your left and right sides of your body.

            Just like with the water pipe, at first, hold on to something. After a while, learn to maintain your balance for one, two, or three seconds at a time. I know this is challenging, but it does the job. Force your willpower to continue with this training, if only for 10 minutes. Away from home, it will be the most productive, the most calming 10 minutes.

            Try to do it in a secluded place, so you don’t have to deal with the stares and questions from other people. You have enough going on in your head as is.

 

            This is it, my friend. I’ve told you all I know. I’ve dealt with balance for about fifteen years. It is a mighty source for your body to heal itself. It is now time for you to put all this to the test. Please, oh please, don’t expect fast results. You have to overcome difficulties not with your strength, but with your perseverance and attention to the clock and the schedule. Can you find enough willpower in you to do this over several months?

            If you have one, continue with your treatment, and do this practice, without question, without fail, without excuses, for six months. Then, let the world know if this was a bunch of hooey or if this was success for Overabundance in Neutrality.

            I will take whatever response you provide, as long as it’s honest.

 

How to build your own water pipe 

1.     Clean the entire water pipe with rubbing alcohol a few times, as it is dirty when you get it from the store.

2.     Wrap a medium-heavy jute twine over the entire length of the pipe. Leave about 1-2 finger empty space between the loops. When wrapping keep, the string tight. As you reach the end, return the way you came in and lay another layer of loops on tope of the ones you just made. This will create diamond-shaped patterns in the wrapping.

3.     Secure the ends with hockey tape. (It is a cloth-based tape used to wrap the handles of hockey sticks and baseball bats. If you have a choice, get it white color.)

4.     Next step is messy. Make sure you cover your work area. Take traditional wood glue, like the Titebond or Elmer’s glue, and with a cheap paintbrush, brush the glue all over the pipe and the twine. Apply a thin coat or it will drip a lot and will take longer to dry. The glue will prevent the twine from shifting and also will make the twine a bit coarser to touch.

5.     Dry overnight.

6.     Wrap everything with hockey tape.

7.     Try to step on the pipe with your socks. Depending on the hockey tape you got, it may stick a little to the socks. In this case, with a dry paintbrush lightly spread some cornstarch over the pipe. This should reduce stickiness.

8.     If you contraption is used on top of new and thick carpet or rug, the wooden blocks may wobble side to side. So either build then like the inverted letter U (see pictures on my website of the one I have), or install four protruding legs (about ½” high) on the bottom of the blocks. The legs will reach the stable area under the carpet and keep the entire contraption from wobbling. See picture.

 

Now, while you were reading this article, did you catch yourself going through the isles of your hardware store? If you nod your had, I’m glad. 

This is a sign for you. Follow it

Godspeed to you!

Stay strong and stubborn.

Sincerely,

Alexander Nestoiter, author of:

Incredible Ah-ha Moments: Ideas you won’t stop talking about

 

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Power of Balance

Balance Training

         Human balance system resides in the inner ear. Although small in size, the organ has profound influence on our physical, emotional, and mental state. In addition to the functions of balance, the inner ear also functions as the center hub for all sensory input. Moreover, the inner ear is pre-processing center for the nervous system.

         As you know the nervous system plays an important role all areas of our physical and emotional lives. Positive changes can be established with exercising/training the different systems of the inner ear to work better. Balance training is one of such activities.

         Balance training is very task-specific. Having good balance in one task does not mean you also become the master of another balance task. For example, knowing how to ride a bicycle does not make one ready to ice skate, or roller blade, or walk the tightrope.

         Tightrope walking is a very intense and difficult balance activity to master mainly because it physically places left side of our body on the left side of the rope and our right side of the body on the right of the rope. The diameter of the rope, its width, is that tiny area where balance can be established.

         Balance training that simulate tightrope walking also does another thing that under normal conditions cannot be accomplished. It MAKES the left and right brain hemispheres communicate with each other without overpowering one another. As you know the left brain is in control of the right side of the body, while the right brain controls the left side of the body. One reason we have two halves of one brain is because of sheer incompatibility of traits. Just because the two brain halves live in one head, does not mean they want the same thing, or that they coordinate their desires through a third party. There is no third party. The two brain halves do not see eye to eye and often compete for dominance. That’s why balance on a tightrope is so hard to maintain.

         But what can this balance do for us? For example, we all know people who are very artistic, free-going, free-flowing, free spirits. They probably are good at various arts, playing musical instruments, singing, dancing, or painting, etc. This set of skills shows pronounced dominance of the right brain.

         People with pronounced left brain dominance, like control, structure, discipline, rules, and logic. They probably read many books, like things spelled out to them, figuratively and literally. They get upset when something is out of order, when someone doesn’t do what they should do. They want the world to be made of nice, even, entirely symmetrical squares that can easily be manipulated, but only to a certain degree.

         If you give them a different shape, they will not know what to do with it. But they are masters of their own shape. They are probably not emotionally savvy, because emotions reside in the right brain, while logic, language, and thoughts, reside in the left brain.

         Balancing that simulates tightrope, takes that hemisphere incompatibility and the desire to be dominant and puts them on a short leash. Using our physical body, we place specific demands on the brain, and the brain learns. Slowly, but it learns. When you train with the system that simulates tightrope, you teach the two halves of the brain to collaborate. You train them not to compete for dominance.

         You make the more powerful side a little less dominant, while you make the less powerful side a bit more powerful. All this is accomplished through specific demands that you place on your body, like trying to maintain balance while one foot is in front of another on a very narrow, oval, walking surface.

         All this is nice to know, but how does this knowledge benefit me? Is that what you’re thinking? The dominance of one brain hemisphere over another leads to a life that is very rich in one area, but is also very poor in the other. A person with a dominant left brain, will probably be an intellectual, who reads a lot, who follows rules and schedules. But chances are this person is bankrupt when it comes to matters of emotions, compassion, artistic skills, ability to relax or dream.

         On the other hand, a person with the dominant right brain will probably be very artistic, emotionally savvy and in touch with his or her emotions, can help others with emotional problems. This person can probably dance, or sing, or play a musical instrument, but don’t expect much when it comes to keeping commitments, schedules, maintaining logic and coherence in what they do or say things.

         I don’t have scientific proof for this, and I don’t know if current technology can offer such proof, but here is something I’d like you to consider and use your own common sense. We all know that ADD and ADHD are due to the brain not working fast enough. For this, people take medication, artificial stimulants. My question to you is, if there are a lot of very talented, even gifted individuals with ADD, how is it that their brain is not working fast enough?

         I think the better question is which hemisphere is not working fast enough? When a person, young or not, cannot read for more than five minutes, when they cannot keep their focus on the teacher during class, when they want to leave the class before the bell rings or are frequently late to classes. What brain hemisphere is slacking off? Do you see my point? And they get pills that stimulate the entire brain, both the left and the right hemispheres just so only the left hemisphere would pick up the speed.

         The medication stimulates both hemispheres and makes the overactive side even more hyper. So, how do you expect a person to keep the schedule, pay attention to the teacher, do homework for two, three hours straight when they are overfilled with emotions like joy, or sadness, or envy, or longing? How can they follow rules and be obedient when they hear music and drums and guitars in their heads that are playing so loud they feel like they are at a concert? I don’t know of any pill that can stimulate only a particular area in the brain. Pills stimulate the entire brain.

         Here is where tightrope style training is going to actually address the problem: calm down the overactive part of the brain, and stimulate the underactive part. Falling down on the ground is one of the biggest fears for humans. That’s why balancing on a tightrope style devise creates a boost of energy and processing speed from the brain to help it deal with the threat of falling down. Since we physically force our body to remain balanced on top of that tightrope, we MAKE the two brain hemispheres communicate with each other without overpowering one another. The extra energy and brain speed given to deal with the threat of losing balance and falling makes the two hemispheres work faster, but not just faster, equally faster.

         Such balance training is needed for those who suffer from PTSD and related problems, like rape. Those who have faced the ugliest of what a man can do, are overwhelmed with emotions and memories that wouldn’t go away. Persistent memories are hunting and haunting these people day and night.

         They take antidepressant drugs and medication for anxiety, and something for psychosis. The purpose of the medication is to stop the scary episodes, but what else are they also stopping? Everything else that is normal and good, that’s what else they are stopping. In order to reduce or remove the episodes, the flashbacks, the nightmares, the hallucinations, they turn a person into a living soulless zombie who cannot appreciate the blue sky, and the family around them. On medication they cannot feel as they used, they cannot have emotions as they used, they cannot interact with others as they used. They feel less, they care less, they enjoy less; they are less alive. They become indifferent to things, to people, to family, to life itself.

         Did their medication help? Yes, it stopped or reduced the scary episodes, but it also reduced these people into soulless creatures.

         Well that’s a side effect of the drugs, their doctors would say. Do you know why doctors keep treating these symptoms with medication that fixes one problem, but creates two new ones? Because it’s profitable. You have problems, you make a visit. They prescribe something. You try, then you go back to them because it doesn’t work. Now they prescribe something else. And again, you go back to them either for refills or because it doesn’t work. But you still go back to them. And each time you visit your doctor, the doctor gets paid for that visit.

         If the doctors would prescribe balance treatment, then physical therapy offices would get the business, not them. And when you realize that all you really need in that physical therapy office is a piece of two by four or a piece of steel water pipe, then you do your therapy at home and don’t even let the physical therapy office make any money off your problem.

         Of course, things could get worse, like four or six months of training will cure you of your nightmares, and of your hallucinations, and other scary episodes. Who is going to make money off of your problem know, the hardware store?

         When something isn’t being used, ask yourself to follow the money. Where will the money flow? Who will benefit from a cured you? Is that you? Your family? The economy? Yes.

         Will the doctor, with his $100,000 student loan benefit? Will his family? Doctors are not paid based on end result. You know that. They are paid for the services rendered. The more services they render, the more money they make. The successful resolution from those services does not give them a bonus. It gives them nothing.

         That’s why they will be telling you not to listen to this crap called balance training. How can they charge for balance training when patients can do it at home, without any supervision, without any monitoring, without any help from them? They can’t charge for that. So they will not prescribe it or endorse it. Count my words, you will not see doctors or hospitals, or pharmaceutical companies endorsing this idea. But that’s ok, I don’t answer to them. I answer to a higher authority.

         For now, this is all I have to say on the matter. I’ve given you the truth to the best of my knowledge and abilities. It is up to you now. Decide. May God help you with your decision.

 

Sincerely,

 

Alexander Nestoiter, author of:

 

Incredible Ah-ha Moments: Ideas you won’t stop talking about.